Are You Emotionally Disconnected?
Do you feel as if your relationships are strained because of emotional distance or drifting? Perhaps you feel emotionally disconnected from your spouse, family, or friends. One way to measure emotional drifting is to gage the conversations among your close relationships. If the exchange or interaction you share with your relationships are transactional or restricted to the matter at hand, or strictly business then chances are you’re experiencing an emotional disconnect. For example, a married couple who primarily shares discussions regarding family matters and rarely show interest in intimacy or spending quality together are more than likely emotionally disconnected from each other. Sometimes in marriage, if a spouse becomes emotionally disconnected it could possibly be an indicator that he or she is having an affair.
What is emotional disconnect? It occurs when a person becomes detached from your emotions. The person may be numb when it comes to feeling your emotions or quite frankly their own, they will typically withhold their affections and lack the ability to share their own emotions with you.
Causes of emotional disconnect could include depression or personality disorders. They are generally triggered by a traumatic life event or by stress. Emotional disconnections can also result from multi-generational patterns within family systems where individuals were raised in emotionally disconnected homes.
Maintaining your own connection with your emotions is important. It may be necessary for couples to seek counseling to help identify and address the underlying problem that led to the emotional disconnection. Keep in mind that your partner’s emotional disconnection isn’t your fault and it isn’t your problem, but it can significantly impact your relationship, especially if it continues indefinitely.
Understanding that your emotions are regulated in your brain is an important part of regulating emotions. The Limbic System also known as the emotional brain is the emotional center. It is comprised of the fear, threat, reward, memory, and habit forming center. This area of the brain tends to respond in a primitive manner and is prone to fear and threat. It is important that you become consciously aware of your emotions and assess the origin of them. Once you do this you are able to intelligently process and manage your emotions by allowing your higher order thinking brain make more modern decisions. One way to perfect conscious awareness is to practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is a type of meditation that trains your for mental discipline. It allows you to see life from the present moment. You become consciously aware of your surroundings and keep future problems out of the current moment. This practice reduces stress, anxiety, worry and increases happiness and improves your emotional intelligence. I encourage you to order my ebook on meditation where you will learn how to meditate and include deep breathing. Deep breathing is Scientifically proven to carry oxygen to the brain and give you the energy needed to think clearly and make sound judgments.
In order to avoid mental infirmities or weakening of the mind. It is extremely important that you care for the total mind. The consciously aware part of your mind as well as your sub or unconscious mind. The unconscious mind rules our thinking and determines our results in life. We are a product of our thought life! Emotions or feelings are connected to our thoughts.
Another way to heal emotionally is to use your mental faculties. One of them is imagination. In your imagination time visualize the time of life and relationships you desire and attach healthy emotions to your visualizations. The way God Created our unconscious mind to operate is quite fascinating. Your subconscious responds to emotions. It can’t tell the difference between a real occurrence or practiced emotions. Practice displaying a range emotions for various activities. What’s the proper response to wedding or graduation or divorce? Practice the emotions in your creative imagination and you will begin to rewire and activate your emotional brain to function in modern times rather than primitively.
I hope these tips have helped you to begin the process of emotional healing.
Have a Tsalach Day
Vanessa R Brooks
Inner Healing & Personal Development
Life Coach
